"So, it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; were gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday."
We did it! We made it to our 26th anniversary! Life has taken some really odd turns in those years. Times of complete happiness, times of great sorrow. Doubts. Fortune. Times when the checkbook ended up in the negative. Health. Illness. You know, all the things that the vows remind you of when you sign up for the adventure, but that you don't really know how it will be till it's experienced. We have faced it all and them some. Like the loss of our beloved cat Elvis.
Elvis was our best friend. He was also an amazing marriage guide, in that if we got out of line, he would set us straight! We had Elvis about 6 years, when one day he did a nose dive, from the top of the dresser, onto our bodies as we slept! BANG! It was quite a way to wake up! "What the HELL was that?" Alan said groggily. "I don't know" I responded. And I didn't! He had never done that before. Then a couple days later, at about the same time of day, he did a similar action, by running across our bodies while we slept! This was quite uncharacteristic of him. What in the world was he trying to tell us?
This behavior went on for about two weeks, with enough randomness that he would let our guard down and think he was over whatever it was compelling him to do that. Then one morning, I heard him jump onto the dresser, and I quickly cautioned Alan that the Elvis bomb was incoming! We both rolled to our sides at the same time, narrowly missing him landing hard between us! As we talked about it over breakfast that morning, I realized that Elvis had been doing this for a couple weeks, which coincided with the amount of time Alan and I had been fussing over an issue in our lives!
Elvis, loved us enough to put us in our place! He had picked up on the fussing, and he would have NO part of it! Dive bombing us was his way of bring us together, to solve a common problem. When I told my theory to Alan, he said that it was worth working on coming to reasonable compromise to the issue... that day... and we did. And that night, for the first time in a long time, we didn't go to bed annoyed with each other, and Elvis never dive bombed us again!
And we have never seen a hint of that behavior in our new little boys, in fact Hendrix considers bed time Love-Love time. He tucks us in, and purrs and kneads on us, and then we all drift off to sleep. Bedtime just wouldn't be the same without those kitty kisses at night! Alan and I learned from the world's best cat, to not go to bed angry, or resentful, or negative of any kind, and while that lesson was learned completely, we appreciate the nightly gentle reminder from Hendrix to never forget!
We are happy together!
In love forever!
Leaf Of The Day
October 13th, 2016