Thursday, November 12, 2009

16 Minutes Ago...

"If you come to fame not understanding who you are, it will define who you are."

-Oprah Winfrey

16 minutes ago, well, actually, more like a year ago, not too many people had heard of Carrie Prejean, can we just go back a year and start all over!? Sigh! Why won't she just go away! SIGH AGAIN. You know, when she was asked about gay marriage at the Miss USA pageant, she gave the answer she as she actually feels... she spoke her mind. She didn't lie about her true feelings, so I have to give her props for that, but sometimes I wonder what she is willing to lie about. When you ask someone for their opinion, you have to be prepared for the answer they give you, good, bad or indifferent. But when you speak your mind, you also have to be prepared for how your words affect others. In both cases it is how you conduct yourself from that point forward to tells the real tale. Doesn't it?

I know it has been a rough road for Carrie, at least she feels it has. I know she has been subjected to a lot of ridicule and perhaps even some hatred, but to continually put yourself in circumstances which not only tend to bring it on, but indeed cause it yourself, then who do you actually have to blame? Ms. Prejean refers to herself as a Christian, conservative woman. If so, she has the ability to conduct herself in such a way that would set an example for other young, Christian, conservative women. To assert herself, without robbing others of their opinions or who they are as humans. But that's not what we have been seeing, we have been seeing is a sullen, rude, bitchy, self-centered young woman who can't seem to move on from playing the "victim."

The thing is, I don't think she knows what else to do. It seems to be Carrie v. The World. There is a big potential for growth here, but she doesn't seem to be allowing herself to do the one thing that will further her the most. That would be to learn her lessons and move forward. As Barbara Walters pointed out to her on The View yesterday, the best thing that could have happened to her... has. And from it she has a book out, which tells her side of the story as she sees it. It's her voice. It was an appropriate way to present her side of things, but every time she acts out as she did on Larry King Live last night, who can have the patience to listen to her, let alone read her book?

What's sad is that if you believe her when she says she is a Christian conservative, then you have to consider who her roll models in the last few years might have been. Michelle Malkin? A woman who once tried to connect Rachael Ray with terrorism. Anne Coulter? Another woman who uses rudeness as a charm affect, and who once said "I never saw wives enjoying their husbands deaths so much," when referring to 9/11 wives. It's sad really. Why does being a strong woman, have to mean you give up compassion? Why do these woman have to try so hard to be, well, BITCHES?

Carrie, GO AWAY. GO FIND YOURSELF. Don't try to be a cheap imitation of anyone. Go and gain some insight. When you understand your own actions and the consequences of them, give this FAME thing another go. See what people say then, but in the mean time, stop embarrassing yourself and blaming the world for your problems.


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